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What You Really Learn In School
I graduated high school over two years ago. I am in my third year of a psychology degree. I have not used trigonometry once in this time. In fact, I haven’t used most of the facts or methods that I was taught in high school. I knew that it would turn out like this though, and all through my education it plagued me to think that in the end, none of it had any practical application. Why not teach me how to fill out a cheque? Why not teach us how to do our taxes, or interview for a job? It felt like nothing that they did prepared me for the real world. It made it hard to care about what I was learning, and I know that most people feel the same way.
Two years later though, I’ve learnt to value my education even though, no, I will never use trigonometry, and no I can no longer remember organic chemistry. The thing is, while some of those things are prerequisites for your future learning, most of it isn’t being taught to you so that you can remember it. You are not put through high school to become an encyclopedia, and you are not expected to, nor will you be able to, recall all the information you are exposed to. High school is not teaching you facts. It is teaching you how to think. 
I never realized it until my dad explicitly pointed it out to me. Take math for example. Will you use combinatorics a whole lot when you’re 30? No, almost definitely not. And that’s not the point. It’s problem solving. It’s logic. It is teaching your brain to work through a problem and solve it like a puzzle. This you will use your entire life. 
Learning another language doesn’t necessarily mean you will be fluent in it. It helps you understand your own language better, and see the logic and patterns in grammar. Reading about 1000 years of history isn’t to make you remember every detail of the Hundred Year’s War. It is to give you an understanding of our past, including and most importantly our mistakes.
Of course, if you wish to study history or science in university then you are there to learn facts and information, but that gives you a purpose within itself. If you don’t walk away from your secondary education with a reserve of trivia to impress your parents, you should at least take away a greater understanding of yourself, others, and the world around you. Whether you realize it or not, you have gained some practical and necessary skills to function in adult life, they just may not be as obvious as knowing how to buy your first house.
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Long Distance Relationships
We live in a wonderful time. You can hop on a plane and go anywhere - see anything. You can meet people across the world with just a click of a button, and see their lives play out in realtime. With all of this wonder though, chances are you know a few people who are out of your daily reach, whether that be friendships or romantic relationships. This doesn’t make these relationships any less worth it, but it does make it a lot harder. 
Many of my friends live hours away. It was so hard at first, but eventually it becomes very normal. You may go without thinking about them for weeks at a time. You won’t always be able to check in on them. That’s okay. That’s normal. It’s the moments that you do spend together that count. Sometimes the skype calls will come less frequently, and eventually will stop all together. People change, and you move forward, and sometimes one of you may just want to stop trying. 
On the other hand, maybe you will be able to talk to them everyday, and when you finally see each other in person after months of radio silence, it’s like nothing has changed. In the end, if the relationship is really important to you, there will be a way to make it work. Doing that may take a lot of trust, and it may require you to put aside time to write them an email. You will have to be the one to break the silence and send them a hello, or make the call. It will all be worth it.
Of course, you shouldn’t let a long distance relationship keep you from living the life that you are physically present in, and enjoying the people you can touch right now. As with all interactions, we are looking to others to help make our lives a little more positive, and a long distance relationship should be no different. 
In the end though, with most people, you should just make the call. There is something truly lovely about reconnecting with an old friend. Listening to all the wondrous and crazy things that they have gone through over the past weeks, or even the past years is excited is the perfect remedy for estrangement. Even the people you didn’t think you’d miss, and don’t miss in the moment will remind you of why you loved them to begin with.
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Noticing You’re an Adult
My life is at the most cliche of transition times. I am counting down the days that I have left of being 19 years old, and all the terrifying parts of life are kinda starting to make sense. If I’d told myself this a year ago, I wouldn’t have believed it. In fact, a year ago I was at my lowest point. Nothing was working out. I didn’t know what I wanted and furthermore I didn’t think that I could manage what life would throw at me. It was a blur of confusion, and I felt more like a child than ever. Nothing will make you feel younger or more clueless like being faced with reality on your own for the first time. Somewhere along the way though, I started to get it together, and now when I tally up all the wonderful things I have and have accomplished in just a year, I am finally actually starting to feel like an adult. Often you’ll hear people say that you never really feel it - you just keep getting older. I disagree. It is not without work, and it is not without a lot of doubt that you can get to a point where you really feel like you’re on top of things. I had to take a lot of chances and be brutally honest with myself a lot of the time. The first big push that I had was an opportunity to interview for a business club at my university. The position involved event photography and videography - things that I love. I didn’t seek it out; a friend in the club let me know about it. My first instinct was to say no. That was always my first instinct. Still is to be honest. There comes a point though, where you have to stop saying no. And I got the position. I met new people, experienced working with a team, and got involved. It feels good to take on some responsibility, and start making things/doing your work for other people. 
I also came to the realization that I struggle with a lot of stress and self doubt. My lovely boyfriend (who I mention every few posts) really helped me through it. Working on a genuinely real, healthy and rewarding relationship made such a difference to me this year. Life is much too short to waste on people who cannot bring out the best in you. With much of his encouragement, I was able to push myself to do a lot more than I’ve done before, including starting this blog, and even acing my summer job interview. I still deal with anxiety, but I am being more honest with myself in what I can do, and I can do a lot of things pretty damn well these days. 
Over time I have noticed my skills develop, and my confidence. I have gone from a shy girl who could not look strangers in the eye to being able to confidently work with others. Now I am living in my first apartment (by that I mean basement suite), and the most surprising part about the transition was how easy it was. I am not equipped financially to fully jump into adulthood, but mentally, I am in a place where I don’t need my parents to look after me. 
It all seemed like something that was so unattainable, but I have taken on so much responsibility, and it seems that adulthood just happens. One day you just know how to handle things, and slowly you can start to see a path that your life could take. Clubs and jobs, a stable and loving relationship, and living on my own were so out of my depth just last year, and now the world doesn’t seem so scary anymore. 
There isn’t a parade, and nobody else can see it, but suddenly, you’ll just notice it. You’ll realize that you know what you’re doing and that you can handle it all, and I think that’s as close to feeling like an adult as you can get.
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Hi guys, my name is Kelsey Snowdon! This is an original song that I wrote and recorded. It would mean the world if you could listen to it, and reblog it if you like it!

Thank you so much!

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Looking through my really old photos, and I’m finding mountains and wild flowers and so many more beautiful sights that I’d totally forgotten about.
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The Alcazar of Seville is a royal palace in Seville, Spain
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IMGP6950 by Kelsey Snowdon
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P1050840 by Kelsey Snowdon
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